Change Thorns into Flowers

 By Graham Harris



If you had to write an annual appraisal on yourself how would you describe yourself?

• Are you a mental sprinter who sees things quickly and easily? Do you react to things in a flash? Are you capable of making quick decisions?

• Do you find yourself watching others and saying to yourself, I could do that so much quicker?

• Do you find yourself taking on more work because you felt it was easier and quicker for you to do it? Do you feel that you waste so much time waiting for others to complete work?

• Do you feel irritable inside? Do you get frustrated because others don’t seem to understand what you are saying and where you are going?

• Do you find you always want to hurry things up? Do you feel more comfortable when things are concluded rather than left waiting?

• Do you find yourself running out of patience with partner, children, colleagues because they seem to take more time or appear to lack concentration and go off on ‘stupid’ tangents which have little or no relevance to the project?

• Are you the alert, quick acting person who is known as the achiever?

• Are you that person who is good at developing ideas and keeping them on track?

If you own up to a couple or more of these traits and feel really irritable and impatient with yourself and those around you. If you feel that you are always clock watching. If you feel and act like a bear with a sore head more often than not. If you find yourself getting into unnecessary arguments with your partner and children as well as in work then stop for a moment. The negative part of your makeup has taken you over. You are operating from your weaknesses rather than your strengths. This is not your natural state. This is learned behaviour.

You have learned to become a thorn in the belief that this behaviour will protect you.

You prick people. You make people irritated and eventually ruin their performance. And people keep away from you.

But all is not lost. You can find and wake up the natural you.
 

How?

1. Spend time on your own and remember your natural positive side:

inside every impatient person is a patient, gentle one waiting to get out.

inside every impatient person is a person who loves working with others and getting the best out of them.

inside ever impatient person is a person who loves to involve others in tasks.

2. Stop looking back. What has happened has happened it’s all part of the drama of life and cannot be changed. Don’t waste your time and energy, you can’t change the situation. Looking back is just another learned behaviour it’s not natural.

3. Focus on NOW. Look at your thoughts and think about what you want to achieve. The only thing you can control is your thoughts so keep them focussed on what you want. Keep them focussed on the task ahead.

4. Mix with people who want to succeed. Keep a distance from dream stealers. Keep away from people who spend their lives telling others why things cannot happen.

When you follow this method you will change. You will be seen you for what you naturally are; a positive, popular, sought-after, powerful, human being.

Instead of a thorn that is always pricking people you will return to your natural state; a flower.

People like flowers. People like to have flowers around them. People like the wonder of flowers. People like the magic. People like the energy, the life force, the uncontrollable power. People love being around natural things. People are amazed at how flowers grow and survive in the most unlikely situations. When you are natural and using your natural strengths people approach you and want to be with you.

The skills you have of alertness, quick thinking and a quick independent mind are key skills in this world. When you are stressed you tend to go it alone. But when you are working from your natural talents you are a gifted team worker. Just give yourself time to work from your strengths rather than your weakness.

Good Luck

Graham and Julie
www.desktop-meditation.com